How to start — a guide to your first choice

Before you start

For most customers a first purchase is an open list of questions, not a decision. That is fine — five minutes of thinking beats a month of returns.

Think through these three things before you start browsing the catalogue:

• Who will use the product. Alone, with a partner, or passed between two people.
• Where you will keep it. Bedroom, drawer, cabinet — that decides the size and shape that will actually serve you rather than sit in a box.
• Which sensation you want to try. Vibration, massage, stretch, pressure — every product covers a different need. There is no universal "beginner" product.

Step 1 — Choose a category, not a product

Start from the category where you know you will be trying a sensation for the first time. The most common starting point for women is a vibrator at moderate power (3–5 levels rather than 10); for men, a masturbator with a simple texture. For couples, a first purchase often includes lubricant — which is also the least risky first choice in terms of price.

Do not buy a "couples kit" unless you have a clear idea which of the products in it interests you. Kits make sense once you both know there is interest — not as a conversation opener.

Step 2 — Tell the materials apart

Every product we sell states its material in the description. The three we check most often:

• Silicone (medical grade). The softest, does not absorb odours, long service life. Compatible only with water-based lubricants.
• ABS plastic. Firm, non-porous, suited to vibrating internals. Easier to clean.
• TPE/TPR. Softest and most realistic feel, shorter service life — expect 1–2 years of regular use.

More in the Body-safe materials guide.

Step 3 — Start lower, not higher

Almost nobody complains that their first product had too little power. Almost everyone complains it had too much. Start with a 3-level product rather than a 10-level one. Next time you will already know whether you want more. A cheaper first product also tells you whether the category is what interests you at all.

Step 4 — Talking to a partner (for couples)

The most common mistake is to "surprise" a partner. A better approach: talk first to open the subject, then buy the product. A simple list helps — each of you writes down three things you would like to try, and you choose what appears on both lists.

If you are not aligned, a purchase will not do the talking for you. The conversation comes before the order.

Frequently asked questions

How does "body safety" help me if I have allergies?

Every product states its materials. If you have a known allergy (for example to latex or fragranced products), filter the catalogue by material and choose silicone or ABS. For lubricants, choose the version without fragrance and glycerine — that is a standard marking on the product.

I have a product that is not right for me. How do I return it?

Tell us within 14 days of delivery that you are withdrawing — you do not have to give a reason. We refund the full price of the product and the cost of basic delivery. The original packaging is not a condition of your right, but it does make processing easier. For sealed hygiene products the right applies as long as the seal has not been opened. More in the Returns policy.

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